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Friday, February 17, 2017

Breaking The Chains (Addiction:Pornography)

One day, in the suburbs of Savannah, a waste management worker turned down an alley on his route. He pulled his truck over to prepare the dumpster when he heard the noise of a little baby. Looking around, he saw no-one, but inside the dumpster, laying amidst the broken liquor bottles, coffee grounds, rotting food and lying in a sea of pornography was a one week old baby.
He rescued her from the filth and called her baby Grace because she had been left for dead and by the grace of God she was delivered from sharing the same fate of the pornographic magazines and the bottles that the man found her in. She was rescued from the dump, and once the newspapers and television news reported her story, she took Savannah by storm, and the baby, who’s own mother rejected had couples lining up to adopt her and claim her as their own.
Baby Grace’s first week is a metaphor: a picture of our own lives, when like her, many of us were discovered in a dumpster spiritually speaking, surrounded by the filth of our sin: alcohol, drugs, or pornography. We were pitiful, helpless, needing rescue… And by the Grace of God, Jesus was there. He is the worker, who hears the cry and sifted through the garbage to rescue his people. He cares about and has the power to redeem you from things like alcoholism, drug addiction and pornography. Some of you are so spiritually weak that you can’t help yourself. You can no longer resist the temptation because it’s been so long since you’ve been close to God that your spirit is weak and vulnerable. Some of you are in need of a Savior to lift you out of the dump you’re in.

Some people believe church is an atmosphere free of sexual temptation; that no one in the church could possibly be dealing with sins as dark as pornography, or sexual addiction, but I want you to know that these things are a lot more prominent than you might think.

* Last year, US porn revenues exceeded the combined revenues of ABC, NBC and CBS (over 6.2 billion a year), and they’re still growing… Child porn alone generated $3 billion.

* 70% of Internet porn traffic occurs between 9am – 5pm, during the workday, AT WORK!

In fact, in 1 month, employees at IBM, Apple, and AT&T spent a total of 13,048 hours on the penthouse magazine website. Last year, America lost $83 billion in productivity because pornography viewed by people “on the job.”

According to the Counsel on Sexual Addiction Compulsivity, 6-8 % of Americans are sex addicts.

Addiction to sexual stimuli isn’t just an isolated problem any more, friends. It’s an epidemic of huge proportions, and every few months it gets worse because Internet use doubles every 100 days.

Sexual stimuli affects everyone. It hunts us down on television, in magazines and over the Internet. You don’t have to want it to find it. It will find you and lure you into its addiction. It’s called the crack cocaine of the spiritual realm because, like cocaine, pornography is highly addictive in nature. A perfectly innocent Internet user can be browsing the web, come across a pornographic picture, follow his or her curiosity and within minutes be hooked on hard-core porn.

THE WAY IN: How does sexual addiction begin?
There are 3 ingredients that cause sexual addiction to take root.
1.Isolation- Most sin happens when you’re alone. Furthermore, we are most vulnerable to sin when we are ISOLATED FROM GOD! Believers are vulnerable to temptation when we are not walking in the Spirit.
Galatians 5:16-So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.

Take a look at King David’s life. He started out as a shepherd, isolated with God in the wilderness. He developed a passionate relationship with the Lord, because he spent time with the Lord and he knew the power of the Lord on a regular basis: Time away with God.

He was faithful with little, so God gave him more. He defeated Goliath and became famous. Up till then, isolation was the only ingredient. But when he became famous, temptation entered the picture.
 By the age of 30, David was made King of Israel and all his responsibilities as king slowly began sapping his time away from the Lord, and what had become time of isolation with God became time of isolation Away from God.

2: Temptation- Little by little, David became spiritually weak until his ability to resist temptation to sin was zero. His relationship with God was starved to death by the responsibilities of life, and by the time he finally strolled out onto his balcony one night for some peace and isolation he was a spiritual weakling: a sitting duck for temptation.

Bathsheeba strolled outside naked for a bath. Two ingredients were present, which came together in one, volatile, explosive mixture: isolation from God and sexual temptation, and David was defeated. Notice how addictive it was! One glance is all it took and he was hooked. Next thing you know he was willing to kill in order to fulfill his desire to have sex with her.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20-“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.”

3: Access- Today, men and women have as much power as King David. Anyone with a computer can sneak a peak of  porn any time we want: night or day. For most explorers, it escalates into hard porn in a matter of just minutes and burns unforgettable images into the minds of men, woman and even children for the rest of their lives.
Those three ingredients: Isolation, Temptation and Access are the elements: the Molotov cocktail of the spiritual realm that lead us into extremely dangerous and volatile sins such as pornography and sexual addiction.

How do I resist this temptation and stop this from destroying my life? Consider the consequences often; legal, marital, social, emotional, physical and the list goes on and on.
Matthew 6:22-23-  “"The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!"

TAKE IT OUT! Take out the element of temptation and willpower. Matthew 5:27-29, "You have heard that it was said, ’Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.”
Add the element of the Spirit of God to strengthen you by spending time with Him. If you feel yourself being tempted remove yourself from the temptation and pray, pour over the scripture, He will give you the strength to overcome it.

Confess it to others- “My best porn deterrent is called The Club. My wife will beat me with it if I ever look.” You MUST confess the problem to your spouse, and to a friend, who can keep you accountable. WHY? Typically, the addict becomes isolated from family, acts differently, has to hide the secret lifestyle. This is damaging to the whole family.

Brokenness brings in the renewal of a right relationship with God and family.
 Matthew 21:44- “He who falls on this stone will be broken to pieces, but he on whom it falls will be crushed.”
David’s brokenness and repentance is what brought Him back into right relationship with God.
Psalms 51:2-3- “Wash away all my iniquity and cleanse me from my sin. For I know my transgressions, and my sin is always before me.”

Would you be comfortable with your spouse knowing every thought you’ve had about them, or about someone else throughout your entire marriage?

Have within the past 7 days you taken a second glance at a hot body? Did you have thoughts you’d be ashamed to mention in front of your spouse? Only God knows… He knows your heart, every secret corner. He hears every thought and knows very deeply about your every motive.

Our goal in Christ is to love God to such a degree, that no one and nothing compares to the relationship we have with Him.  Do you remember when you were in love for the first time? Do you remember experiencing infatuation that convinced you no one else mattered as much as that person you felt so strongly about?

An incredible thing happens when we take time to Get Away With God and have encounters with Him. We grow more passionate about Him. We realize how meaningless and selfish life is without Him in it, and the ‘things’ we thought were so important before become less interesting.

Our relationship with The Lord is like a marriage, and a marriage is a trust, where two people decide to be faithful. When one of the marriage partners runs after someone else, the trust is broken, and we call the person an adulterer. This is what happens when we place other things before God: we become adulterous. We betray God and ourselves when we sin against Him.

Romans 6:19- I put this in human terms because you are weak in your natural selves. Just as you used to offer the parts of your body in slavery to impurity and to ever-increasing wickedness, so now offer them in slavery to righteousness leading to holiness.

The simple answer to sexual sin is Jesus. But the road back home from sexual sin to Jesus is not a simple road; and the path to recovery, as with that of any life controlling habit, is difficult and often times very painful. But we have a Heavenly Father that will give us the strength to overcome anything through Him!

May You Be Blessed With Peace And Understanding

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Breaking The Chains (Addiction)

Nothing tears apart a family, a marriage, or a soul more than addiction. There are many areas a person can be addicted to, but today I am going to focus on substance abuse. Mainly alcohol because it's legal and most readily available. But above all because it has such a prominent place in scripture.

Galations 5:19-21- The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry, hatred, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Most might be saying drinking can't be as bad as murder, or stealing, or other horrible crimes. But to God sin is sin. Those that are drunkards will not inherit the kingdom. "Well I can have a couple and I will be just fine." These are usually the words you hear before they go into a bender that causes them to blackout, or worse hurt those they love or seriously destroy their health.

1 Corinthians 10:23-24- "I have the right to do anything," you say-but not everything is beneficial. 'I have the right to do anything"-but not everything is constructive. No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.

If you honestly take a look at the list of offenses in that verse you can easily see that drunkenness usually leads to more in that list.

I read a man's testimony about his life as an alcoholic and the path that took him to his destructive demise. He was 16 when his parents divorced and this was his first introduction to alcohol. As time passed close family members and friends died young making him spiral even more out of control. Everyday life could not be sustained unless he was drinking. He considered it his anchor to staying alive. But like an anchor, his life was quickly rusting and decaying away. He constantly drank to black out and subconsciously avoid his past and his problem. He would not listen to constant pleas from his wife or daughters. No one in his family could reach him.  It got to the point of being unaware of all his surroundings, lashing out as if he was possessed, and finally ending with a massive heart attack. He then realized his problems couldn't be solved by social programs nor could he be assisted by human intervention. Self-help programs didn't help because he was self-destructive.
Only God was going to be able to save him.

People I know first hand how destructive this force is on an alcoholic. They are literally controlled by a spirit of depravity that was allowed in and has destroyed their life. This may be tough to hear but alcoholics are the greatest excuse makers in the world. They can blame their condition on everything except for the fact of taking responsibility for their actions. They are blinded to their surroundings and can't see there are plenty of anchors for their life and problems other than alcohol. Pride is the greatest stumbling block to progress.

In Mark 5 we have the story of a demon possessed man approaching Christ. There is a progression in this passage that can be summarized in three words.
1) Destruction
2) Deliverance
3) Deployment

Destruction- Jesus had just stepped off the boat from calming the storms when a deranged man comes running up to him. He was naked and being "driven by the demon." As so is the life of an alcoholic. At times there is no reasonable explanation for what they do because they are being driven by another force.
No one could restrain this man or help him. He was self destructive; with constant episodes of uncontrolled rage. Night and day he was tormented by these demons.

Just like alcoholics, he was wrecked by Satan and society could not reform him. Nothing could restrain him. His lifestyle was destroying him. In short, he was hopeless and helpless, isolated and empty, trapped and tormented, and he needed someone to deliver him.

Deliverance-
Asking God for freedom from this one compulsive behavior, and he will show you the key to dealing with what you thought was one primary issue; and make you face all of your sinful disobedience. You can't mask one and hope the others go away. The process is not easy or quick, but it is free; because God's Grace is Free. You have to do more than turn your care of your will over to God; you have to accept the sacrifice that Jesus made as your sin  substitute. How could you turn down a free gift like absolute forgiveness and eternal life? You have to be willing to be open and honest with yourself and with God. By working through your past and not around it God will help you heal.

In verse 6 we see this man who has ran from everyone else, run straight to Jesus's feet. Even then the man could not speak for himself. The demon afraid of Christ begged to be thrown into a herd of pigs and perish; rather than face his eternal punishment. Jesus tells the demons to depart and instantly the man is made whole.

"We change when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of changing." Are you ready to change?
Once the man was saved he immediately wanted to follow Christ wherever he went. But Christ did not allow him. Instead he told him his path, and his mission was to go and tell of his life and his deliverance.

Deployment- Jesus doesn't force Himself on anyone. When he's invited He comes. When He's received, He responds. When He's told to go away, He leaves. Many people don't have anything against Jesus; they just want to keep Him at arms length. When Jesus knocks on the door, run quickly to let him in. Don't think He is obliged to come back again and again. We want a gentle Jesus who keeps his nose out of our business and who will take us to heaven but not interfere in the way we live on earth. We want a Jesus who builds our self-esteem and makes us happy, but we want nothing to do with the Lord from heaven who calls us to take up our cross and follow Him.

Jeremiah 29:11- "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

Are you going to make that choice to break your chains of bondage? Are you going to put a stop to your destructive life; and allow Christ to bring you deliverance and set you on the path he has chosen for you?

May you be Blessed with Peace and Understanding




Friday, February 10, 2017

A Biblical Marriage Part 4 (Divorce)

Matthew 19:3-9- "Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said,"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh"? "So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."

Marriage is a covenant before God where vows are shared. God holds a covenant as a non-breakable agreement.

Psalms 105:8- He has remembered His covenant forever, The word He commanded to a thousand generations. (God's covenants are forever, just as marriage is till death do us part.)

Any covenant-including the marriage covenant-is a binding, weighty, obligation. In Proverbs 20:25 we read, "It is a trap for a man to dedicate something rashly and only later to consider his vows".

Another reason God hates divorce is because it tears at the very heart of God's redemptive plan for the world. One of his major purposes for marriage is to mirror his image. After he had created everything He said "Let us create man in Our image, according to Our likeness". What does it mean to mirror God's image? Our marriage should exalt God and glorify him to a world that desperately needs to see Him. This is why we were created in his image so that people who wouldn't otherwise know what God is like, can look thru us and get a glimpse of Him.

The second purpose is to complete each other and experience companionship. Genesis 2:18 says "It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him".

The third purpose is to multiply a godly legacy. God's original plan for the home was a place children could grow up to learn character, values, and integrity. Deuteronomy 6:6-7- "These words, which I am commanding you, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and daughters, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up."

This is why marriage is far more important than most people realize. It affects God's reputation here on earth. This is why Christ must be the Builder of your home.

Unfortunately people who base their lives on worldly desires tear apart this plan for marriage. So there are "exception clauses" that allow for divorce.

Matthew 19:9- " I say to you, whoever divorces their spouse, except for immorality, and marries another commits adultery."
1 Corinthians 7:15-17- "Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let them leave; the man or woman is not
under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife? Only, as the Lord has assigned to each one, as God has called each, in this manner let them walk. And so I direct in all the churches."

However you choose to interpret these passages, one thing is for sure; God never ordained or created divorce, man did.

God releases a couple from the lifelong covenant of marriage:
     1. In the case of consistent, unrepentant immorality.
     2. When an unbelieving spouse deserts a believer.

1 Corinthians 7:24- "Each man must remain in that condition in which he was called...Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released."

Obviously this is a difficult issue. But both sides of the debate would agree that most couples seeking a divorce today do so for unbiblical  reasons. Whether it's poor communication, incompatibility, financial problems, lack of commitment to the relationship, or changes in priorities. In short, when the marriage isn't working, the common solution is to get out.

In today's culture where meeting individual needs no matter the cost, so as to gain pleasure and avoid pain; we have to be open to trusting God's plan to come to pass in our marriage. God's plan is one of redemption. And very few spouses who consider divorce have done everything they can to salvage the marriage.

Your probably saying, "Well you don't understand my spouse and my situation." And your right, I don't. But with the seriousness of the subject let me state a few points:
        1. You need someone who is willing and able to talk to you during this time( Someone who won't just sympathize but will hold you accountable to look at biblical issues.)
        2. You need to be surrounded by other Christians that can love and encourage you.
        3. Most important you need to seek God in his word and cry out to Him to know His will for what you should do, and of how to respond to your spouse.

How much value are you going to place on the vows you said to your spouse before the face of God?
When you consider the value God puts on a covenant, what are the obligations of your marriage covenant before Him?
Will you be patient to wait for God to work in your marriage, and give you the wisdom, resources, and encouragement to do what you can't imagine?

I encourage you to ask God what you can do to rebuild your marriage. He specializes in redeeming the unredeemable. This is His main desire for your marriage.

I encourage you and your spouse to begin to pray this prayer:
Change me, Lord. Here is my heart. Cleanse me of impure motives. Reduce me to love. Let your pure love be the driving force behind my words, my touch, and my tone of voice.

Change my perception. Help me to see myself and my spouse through your eyes. Reveal to us where we are making the situation worse by resisting Your leadership and disobeying Your commands.

Help me to wait prayerfully and expectantly for You to move in us and our circumstances.

May You Be Blessed with Peace and Understanding!

Monday, February 6, 2017

What it means to be a True Christian Part 2

I was raised in church and at a young age like so many of us do I accepted Christ into my heart and asked for forgiveness. Even with as much of the scriptures I was taught growing up, I didn't have a true grasp on what this meant. Like so many people we grow up and grow away from the church and from Christ. We are taught the stories, taught to be good, and what is right and wrong. But we really aren't taught what it means to be a true disciple.

Luke 4:43- Jesus said to him, "No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for the kingdom of God"

This verse holds deep meaning for what a Christian should be. If we've truly confessed our sins and have been transformed by Christ's saving grace we shouldn't look back. We can't put our hands to the job of doing the Father's will if we continue to look back at the desires of this world. Just as Lot's wife didn't have true faith in God and tried to turn back to the world and was destroyed, so will we today.

Psalm 139:12- Even the darkness is not dark to you. And the night is as bright as the day. Darkness and Light are alike to you.

In an ever growing evil world we can't allow what's dark to become light. Our perception of what's dark and light, right and wrong, have been severely blurred. Worldly desires can not be mixed with the Christian faith.

2 Corinthians 6;14- Do not be bound together with worldly pursuits; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?

Am I saying that you will never fall and sin as a Christian, of course not, But you will begin to find that some of the worldly things you used to take part in become less and less of a desire. Instead of willfully sinning you will  continue to grow in the ability to buffer yourself from sinning.

Matthew 7:21-23- "Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of Father who is in heaven. On that day many will say to me, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?" And then will I declare to them, "I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness."

There are so many people going thru life playing the outwardly role of a Christian, but their heart is far from him. Works without repentance is useless, and the fruit that bears from this is rotten; and will continue to spoil all that is around it.

In my Monday morning meeting today a good verse was shared that paints a good picture of a true Christian.
Psalm 118:27- Jehovah is God, and he hath given us light: bind the sacrifice with cords, even unto the horns of the altar.
Jesus was that sacrifice given up so all mankind could be saved. I look at this verse and a few things come to me.
            1. If you were bound to the horns of a bull, you would not only follow him wherever he went but your life and well being would be tied to him. So as with Christ; if you bind yourself to Christ, then his will for you and your life will follow closely with him always.

             2. A sacrifice was brought to the altar to atone for one's sins. In the same manner if we sacrifice daily ( die to ourselves daily), and bind that sacrifice to the head of the altar(Christ), then nothing we do can fail.

I read in a commentary how going into the temple and grasping the horns of the altar was a sign of you saying you were not guilty of a crime.

In Psalm 18:2 it says- The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold.

Wow how amazing is that representation. It says the Lord is the horn; guiltless, that took on the sin of the world and was bound to the altar and sacrificed for all mankind. Just Amazing how scripture tells a story within a story, within a story.

UPDATE!!! 
A lady who's child goes to the preschool where I work brought this donation in the other day:
32-Coats
10-Bookbags
4-Blankets
Praise God Thank You So Much!

May you be Blessed with Peace and Understanding