"My spouse never helps around the house!""My spouse never wants to have sex."
"Why won't my spouse do this or that?"
We have no problem picking apart our spouse's faults. What we don't realize is every time that happens you are slowly chipping away at your spouses self esteem. Slowly building anger, resentment, and a whole host of other emotions that will bottle up and explode one day.
If we are consumed with highlighting where our spouses are falling short, we will miss the divine mysteries of marriage and the lessons it has to teach us.
In the middle of a struggling marriage, it's very easy to focus on what's wrong instead of stopping to listen to God and ask him for guidance.
In the midst of a marriage crisis, there is a very real temptation to focus on what's wrong, why it is wrong, and whose fault it is. This earthly focus can result in a hopeless state of mind. This hopelessness and discouragement makes us vulnerable to the enemy's schemes to divide us. Throughout the bible, God offers us hope. He shows us over and over again that nothing is impossible when He is involved. He promises that we will experience peace when we keep our eyes on Him.
Isaiah 26:3- You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.
Our task is to believe, to ask, and to resist doubting.
Mark 11:23- "Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, "Go, throw yourself into the sea," and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them.
Ephesians 5:22-26- Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Now before you ladies get up and arms, the men who use this out of context do not have a Godly love for you. It goes both ways, submitting yourselves to each other, becoming one. Yes as Christ is the head of the church, the man is the head of the house; but he must run it with the same love that Christ showed the church. If he does this ladies he will not overstep his bounds in the marriage. As well gentleman you submit yourselves to your wife with a love that shows your willingness to sacrifice yourself in all ways for her.
All problems that arise in a marriage are because one or the other have removed themselves from being just one entity and reverted to a separate one.
Whether it be Adultery, Substance Abuse, Finances, or any other reason for trouble in a marriage; it arises when one or the other begin to be selfish instead of selfless. When one's desires take precedence over the well being of they're spouse, is when marital strife begins.
Our next part we will break down the different reasons for trouble in a marriage and what His Word says about each. The first one will be on Adultery and Sex in the marriage.
Update: After slowly figuring out this whole blogging thing I came across an area that shows how many people view and sign up to follow the site. Yahweh is not only using this platform here in our area but people all over the U.S and Canada and South Korea are following. Praise God!
Thank You. May you be blessed with peace and understanding.
